People, I need more questions here. Ok?
In the meantime, I think you should go a read a VERY insightful post my friend Michelle wrote yesterday. So click here.
I don think I blogged about this before, but it really annoys me when people tell us ‘Vince is so lucky to have you as parents, I/we could never do what you do’. After we got the diagnoses, it really made me mad. Straight on furious. What the hell did people now about us? Why would we be ‘better’ suited for this? I understand and did back then too, that this was meant as a compliment but it still never felt good. I mean, what were we to do? Of course we love our kids. Both of them. I will go through fire for both of them. Just like most parents would for their kids.
Ok, so we had to suit up and battle a few municipalities, a bunch of stereo types, stay on our toes to defend that Vince can and will do just fine in this society. We have to do this a lot more often maybe, but you would to, if your kid needed it, right? We still have many battles left to fight, many people left to educate, and many new roads to travel, but guess what? so do you with your kids.
Like Michelle also said, you jump a little when you hear the R-word, you hear words being used that are hurtful, and it sucks when people like Jennifer Aniston makes stupid remarks. Or when President Obama made a distasteful joke. Or Ben Stiller defending his Tropical Thunder movie from 2008? That sucks and makes you wonder what really will be in the future of your child.
But then, there are all the amazing people I have met. People I would never have met if it was not for Vincent. And how much our families and friends have reached out. Spread the word, educated themselves and other around about all the things that matter and when hurtful language have been used they stand up. Regardless if we were there or not. That my friends; are the spreading circles on the water, and that makes me incredibly happy. All this because of one little 4-year-old. That is simply empowering!